Women, War and Peace issue of On The Issue Magazine
As the U.S. approaches a decade of war, what are feminist writers and artists thinking? On The Issues Magazine Summer 2011 probes peace activism and war reality.

Photo Essay: Women and Girls in Conflict Zones
by Ann Jones; Curated by Linda Stein


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Ann Jones has spent the better part of her life traveling in the U.S. and abroad, working as a writer,
reporter, photographer and humanitarian, encouraging people—especially women—to
speak up for themselves. Learn more at annjonesonline.com

Nadeem posted: 2013-01-02 20:43:28

Sexism does hurt men too. It's not anti-feminist to say so (unless you're only talking about the feiimnsm is the only important kind of discrimination' subset of feminists).Patriarchy does not allow men to feel sad or scared.If they do feel sad or scared, they are not able to get support for it.Patriarchy doesn't allow men to have genuine relationships with their children, especially infants.They are trained to be inept at childcare and uncertain around babies.Patriarchy equates almost all male expressions of physical affection with sex.Men are not allowed to be physically affectionate to other men, because that's seen to indicate homosexuality. Even boys well before puberty get this.If men feel any kind of affection towards a non-relative woman, they are assumed to be sexually attracted to her. It's not considered possible for men to simply be friends with women.Patriarchy trains men to equate sex, love and power. This results in some men, especially those who are already vulnerable to those attitudes, to become abusers.Abusive men are treated as true men', which harms the men who are not abusive.Women are also trained by the higher percentage of male abusers and the societal attitudes that create them to fear men, and assume that men, especially angry men, are potentially dangerous.Patriarchy trains men to do the initiating of sex, and women to respond.This harms men, and adolescent boys, who are too shy or anxious to initiate.This trains bolder men to be invasive, expecting that if they keep pressuring, the woman will agree to sex. It also leaves men likely to overlook or disregard signs that the woman is not consenting. Because women are often expected to put up token' resistence, real resistence may be mistaken for token resistence. Men are left uncertain or guilty about being too pushy.Patriarchy divides many activities into male' and female'. This harms boys and men who would enjoy female activities, and/or do not enjoy male activities. For example, nurturing boys, unathletic boys, men who like children and men who are not very competitive are harmed by these divisions.Boys are expected to be, like girls, strongly bonded to their mother in early childhood, but unlike girls, a boy who is still strongly bonded to his mother in mid-late childhood is ridiculed.Male victims of abuse are treated as either complicit in the abuse (eg adolescent boy sexually abused by adult woman) or inferior and weak, to a much greater degree than female victims.These are many ways that traditional patriarchy hurts men and boys. To claim that patriarchy only hurts women and girls is a disservice to male victims of patriarchy and helps to rob women of allies in the fight against patriarchy.

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